“Psychotherapy cannot enable you to know what you want, but only to risk finding out.”
– Adam Phillips
My approach to psychotherapy is experiential. You can anticipate having an experience that deeply affects and changes the way you feel and think about yourself and others. I’m an active listener. I will share with you my thoughts and feelings as I listen. I will help you feel what you are thinking and think about what you are feeling because both are vital for real change.
You can expect me to work with you to create an environment that feels welcoming and non-judgmental, so that you feel safe enough to open up. This is very important because thoughtful, emotional risk taking is necessary for real change. For instance, I will invite you to say what you are thinking and feeling in the moment, especially if you are afraid I won’t like it.
It may be useful to include your impressions and feelings about me and mine about you, so we can learn together to what extent all this reflects your relationships in general. In this way, the relationship that develops between us becomes a relatively safe way to discover, explore and change ways of relating so that all your relationships, perhaps most important, your relationship with yourself, become more fulfilling.